Thoughts, experiences and adventures from a resident of DelSo aka Delaware Avenue South in Albany, N.Y.
The relationship I have with my mother has been problematic for as long as I can remember. While she generally met my most basic needs of shelter, clothing and food, very little beyond that was available or offered to me. Affection, emotional or financial support, and intimacy were never part of the package. I’ve worked … Continue reading That’s not my name
In what feels like the blink of an eye, the ten years of my 50s have flown past and I’m facing the dawn of a new decade. That was fast. Replacing that 5 with a 6 will probably take a little getting used to, at least in a literal sense. Mentally and emotionally, though, I’ve … Continue reading Reflecting on my 50s – some feats, foibles, fails and facts.
Simply be Americans unified in our shared grief? Pause and remember all that we have lost - the people, the sense of safety, the innocence? Extend ourselves to help others? Honor the brave fire fighters, police officers and medical personnel who ran into the towers as all others sought to escape? Be the best versions … Continue reading For just one day can we all…
I often complain that I hate owning a house because of the unpredictable responsibilities that come with a 115 year-old property. I imagine the freedom I’d feel without the constant worrying about the correct prioritizing of maintenance and improvements and try to decide where else I might live… But, for now (and the last 30+ … Continue reading Leaving the nest
The title of this post comes from the way I misremembered the title of an essay in Rebecca Solnit’s book No Straight Road Takes You There. For the record, the actual title of the short work is “On Not Meeting Nazis Halfway.” Similar things, negotiating and meeting halfway, n’est pas? Now, I haven’t yet read … Continue reading Upon not negotiating with Nazis
Last month, as the Knicks raced towards their first NBA Championship in 53 years, they hit only one major bump, an orange one in fact - Donald J Trump. His presence at Game 3 at Madison Square Garden created an unwelcome distraction and, as I imagine it, a wave of negativity. He shifted the energy … Continue reading Unsporting
In 1996, I was settling into the home we had recently purchased, preparing to start a new permanent professional position and getting ready to start a family. Having all three of those major life milestones occur within a six month window of time, reflectively, seems crazy but, at the time, I was completely unfazed to … Continue reading Declaring (personal) independence
