Who’s the new guy?

After a lifetime spent trying to avoid being banal, i.e. an undereducated restaurant worker after dropping out of high school, cyclical “victim” of poverty, stereotypical librarian, I’m afraid I’ve found myself perpetuating the cliché of “when you stop looking for it, it finds you.” Let me explain. I’ve had a couple of relationships that left … Continue reading Who’s the new guy?

(The cheesiness of) Falling in Love – Deuxième partie

If I had to say one thing about falling in love it would be this: it’s never the same twice.I mean, how could it be? As we grow older and collect experiences we become different people, don’t we? The person who fell head over heels for someone as a teenager, most certainly is not the … Continue reading (The cheesiness of) Falling in Love – Deuxième partie

When lunch leaves you hungry

On a recent weekend I celebrated Christmas with my girlfriends from home. We met in Kingston, an excellent midway point between the three different counties in which the four of us reside. I was late for lunch, (although it turned out that they all were, too) and arrived a little breathless, but with my hair … Continue reading When lunch leaves you hungry

Can(‘t) get (no) satisfaction

I’ve spent far too much time since my divorce nearly a decade ago pondering what it is that I’m seeking in life from a partner. What the “right” relationship will or should look like. How to have realistic expectations without compromising my deepest wishes. Knowing when and how to move on. So many questions and … Continue reading Can(‘t) get (no) satisfaction

Is “date” just another four letter word?

Recently it occurred to me that maybe dating isn’t always supposed to evolve into a capital R Relationship. At least not at every single* point in one’s life. For example, I’m in my mid 50s. In about five years I’ll be eligible to retire and my house will belong to me free and clear. It … Continue reading Is “date” just another four letter word?