The Weekend – and other random thoughts on Super Bowl Sunday

Despite not having even gotten into my car today, I still feel like my weekend was pretty complete.My Friday night date was fun. Really, really fun.The Catskills, dusted with snow on a winter morning, are stunning.Bonfires at the neighbor’s house have been the saving grace of the pandemic.Making reservations for July, in Spain, gives me … Continue reading The Weekend – and other random thoughts on Super Bowl Sunday

Can(‘t) get (no) satisfaction

I’ve spent far too much time since my divorce nearly a decade ago pondering what it is that I’m seeking in life from a partner. What the “right” relationship will or should look like. How to have realistic expectations without compromising my deepest wishes. Knowing when and how to move on. So many questions and … Continue reading Can(‘t) get (no) satisfaction

Is “date” just another four letter word?

Recently it occurred to me that maybe dating isn’t always supposed to evolve into a capital R Relationship. At least not at every single* point in one’s life. For example, I’m in my mid 50s. In about five years I’ll be eligible to retire and my house will belong to me free and clear. It … Continue reading Is “date” just another four letter word?

The truth about online dating

Online dating is weird. One man I chatted with told me, after I expressed surprise that he had lied about his age (shaving a couple of years off the true number), he expects everyone online to lie about things such as their age or height. I told him I preferred to not lie, having been … Continue reading The truth about online dating

Things for which I’m grateful in 2020

The good health of my childrenand my loved ones.Neighbors who host bonfires for socially distanced get togethersand who are capable of, and willing to, spatchcock your Thanksgiving bird.That my days of being a server working my way through college are long goneand that I don’t own a restaurant.My proximity to the Normanskill Farm for quick … Continue reading Things for which I’m grateful in 2020

Modern Love

What do you think of when you read or hear the words “modern love?” The Bowie song? Maybe a contemporary nightmare? The series on Amazon which recently actually filmed locally? Or, perhaps like me, the NYT column in which I dream to one day be published? Confession: it’s a writing fantasy that only comes in … Continue reading Modern Love