Court and spark, please

If you’d asked me a few years ago what I was seeking in a romantic relationship I’m confident that the words “to be courted” would have been part of that conversation. Actually, I’m absolutely certain we could go back and do a “DelSo blog” and “courted” Google search and find posts I’ve written over the … Continue reading Court and spark, please

Daddy. Complex.

Issues with my mother continue to occupy me but, stimulated by situations which my friends are experiencing, my thoughts have recently turned away from mothers and to fathers. In all honesty, pondering fatherhood feels a lot less angsty to me, especially now with my mother’s poor health and my own conflicted sense of responsibility and … Continue reading Daddy. Complex.

The death of passion

Over the years many friends have given me plants. I probably have 9 or 10 houseplants at this very moment which I received as gifts. For the most part, these plants do well, although I’ve learned that like the peplum in fashion, jade plants and I are never going to be friends. That’s ok. There … Continue reading The death of passion

Are relationships all about what’s available?

You with a different schedule.You with deeper thoughts and more reflection. You with more time to be with me. You with equal measures of adoration. While not exactly in those words, I’ve been on the receiving end of each of those sentiments in relationships during my life. As I consider them, it seems that these … Continue reading Are relationships all about what’s available?

Closing the window(s)

We’re at that point in the year where it’s time to admit that summer is indeed over. While it seems to me that cooler nights are arriving later than in previous years (I recall struggling to not put the heat on in Septembers past), there’s no denying that my plants are going to want to … Continue reading Closing the window(s)

I put a spell on you

It seems like versions of this song have been popping up in my life recently. While the original version by Screaming Jay Hawkins is a classic, no doubt, the versions I prefer are a bit less campy.  Think Nina Simone or this wonderful, modern version by She and Him which is featured on my newest … Continue reading I put a spell on you