Words for the lovelorn & dating weary

As I’ve learned (and shared), dating is not for the faint of heart, friends. It can be exhilarating and crushing - sometimes in rapid succession. I guess, we all make our choices as to how to proceed when we seek to add a special person to our lives. Maybe you’ve become frustrated or discouraged by … Continue reading Words for the lovelorn & dating weary

Thoughts on turning 55

Mid decade birthdays tend to be significant to me. They’re the ones that most often prompt me to pause, evaluate, and reflect upon where I am and where I want to be. As my “double nickels” birthday approaches, I find myself needing to catalog (Ha, a librarian joke) some thoughts and lessons learned recently. It’s … Continue reading Thoughts on turning 55

Summer school(ed)

This week I’ll begin my 27th year teaching. If you factor in my own years as a student, I’ve spent 45+ years of my life greeting September by returning to school. That’s a long time. Despite all those decades of experience, a new school year always comes with a combination of excitement and dread. Each … Continue reading Summer school(ed)

This year is different

I’m renting the same Wellfleet house for the fifth consecutive year. Considering I could barely find it that first year because of its wildly remote location, this seems almost remarkable. I’m sleeping in a different bedroom this year, having given up my preferred ground floor accommodations for a room just one floor up, with a … Continue reading This year is different

Regrets. I’ve had a few.

As a person who firmly believes that it’s better to regret doing something than not doing something, I don’t have many regrets in life. The few I do have consistently come from me kicking myself in the ass for not doing something that may have intimidated me or taken me out of my comfort zone. … Continue reading Regrets. I’ve had a few.

How to screw yourself

Midlife dating is…interesting. I’ve written before about how what one is seeking in a relationship evolves as time passes. Instead of a partner who can co-parent and co-sign, many 50-somethings are hoping to meet someone who can co-plan and co-pilot on life’s next big, and sometimes small, adventures. Ideally, for me, that special someone is … Continue reading How to screw yourself