Somehow I’ve come to be perceived as the epitome of the gay divorcée. I’m not exactly sure how that happened, but I think this article may provide some insight. You see, I intuitively do many of the things the article suggests.
Life isn’t always easy or joyful or simple. What I try to remind myself of is this: regardless of how I’m feeling or whether I’m struggling or not, life continues moving forward. I can’t control that. What I can try to manage though is how I’m going to approach the challenges with which I am faced and so, I choose happiness.
Being divorced isn’t something I ever imagined being. It wasn’t really part of the plan, you know? I’ve learned, however, that some things are intended to be full length works, while others are merely a series of short stories. I’m okay with chapters, both in literature and in life. I suppose that would be me embracing items 4, 6 and 10 on that list.
Since my divorce I have been much more creatively active. I write like a fiend and both my writing and my photos have been publicly shared. Somehow I’ve turned into a runner and have become more physically fit than I had ever imagined being. I guess that’s kind of embodying numbers 2 and 7, isn’t it? Isn’t there something you’ve been wanting to do or try? What are you waiting for?
Life’s big decisions can be fraught with fear and what ifs, but I guess I’d rather risk failing at something new than stay in a losing situation. The unknown can certainly be scary, but if you shift your view ever so slightly, scary might just become exhilarating. Item 5 – check.
My relationship wasn’t necessarily “bad” but the circumstances didn’t allow me to be the best me I could be, which, I suppose, was “bad” for me. I think that my ex and I both are being good to ourselves during the times we are childless. That would take care of 1 and 3 on the list, I think.
Numbers 8 and 9 don’t really apply to me. My definition of success has never really been tied to ambition or financial accomplishments. When it comes time to memorialize me, all I hope for is to be remembered for having had a nice family and a life filled with love and experiences. I’ve always been moderate about my indulgences and that has not changed. I try to remain aware of how my body and mind are responding to what I’m ingesting and adjust accordingly.
Choose happiness. There’s plenty to go around.
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