Yeah, you. My reader. It's been more than 7 years, 2 domains and a divorce since DelSo was born. Over the years I've shared a lot of my life and self here, in print. You, as a reader, have come to know me on some level from my words. What makes you return here (assuming … Continue reading Who are you?
Category: marriage
My home is not broken
I attended a meeting recently and was struck to hear a colleague describe a student's home as being "broken." Of course, my reaction is personal and I'm probably just being hypersensitive, but it really bothered me, particularly since it was offered as an explanation for all of a particular child's academic, social and personal issues. … Continue reading My home is not broken
Anniversary dinner
Anniversary: a date that is remembered or celebrated because a special or notable event occurred on that date in a previous year Yesterday was my 22nd wedding anniversary. I've been divorced for 5 years, so there weren't any cards or flowers to mark the occasion, yet I felt surprisingly sentimental about the day. I think … Continue reading Anniversary dinner
I never imagined
On our 15th wedding anniversary, my husband and I had a special dinner at a restaurant on Martha's Vineyard. The meal was a bit of a disappointment, but the company was good. After we had finished our meals and were somewhere between entrée and dessert, our wedding song came on over the restaurant's speakers. I … Continue reading I never imagined
Looking for patterns
If you were to look in my closet, you'd notice a number of similar items, like these two dresses, for instance. My tendency to gravitate to a certain style of shoe (chunky Mary Janes, preferably black), boots (knee-high, brown lace-ups) and sweaters (oversize and loosely woven) is easily discernible. I've got a thing for purple … Continue reading Looking for patterns
Choosing happiness
Somehow I’ve come to be perceived as the epitome of the gay divorcée. I’m not exactly sure how that happened, but I think this article may provide some insight. You see, I intuitively do many of the things the article suggests. Life isn't always easy or joyful or simple. What I try to remind myself … Continue reading Choosing happiness
Explorations and discoveries
In the last few years, my perspective has changed dramatically. Once upon a time, I believed that all my decisions had been made and the future held only more stagnation. It was like I was a participant in some organized game with the only object being to "land" on particular spaces in a mostly consistent … Continue reading Explorations and discoveries